sooooo i finally cut that toxic friend off (1 Viewer)

[anemoia]

if some of you gys rmbr me posting abt confronting my toxic friend (overview: me, A, 3 oth friends in friend grp. me + 3 oth friends feel that A is being toxic, confronted her, she basically didnt do anything abt it) so today something happened that was basically the straw that broke the camels back. so during physical ed, we were practicing how to serve in volleyball and there were 3 guys, A and another girl on my team. so the thing is im terrified of items flying towards me s my immediate reaction is to always jump out of the way. even if the item isnt even near me ill flinch. ok so the ball was hurtling towards my face so i instinctively dodged then i apologised and ran to get the ball. aft like the 3rd time A came up to me and said, "can you just catch the ball, the guys are getting annoyed" so firstly the guys werent actually annoyed they were just being dramatic (bc if they were actually annoyed they would say smtg but they just threw up their hands and laughed a bit) BUT THE PT IS I WAS SO FREAKING UPSET like you srsly care more abt what the guys think then how i was feeling???? and you expect us to always care abt how you are feeling??? so anyway afterwards while i was telling my oth friends abt it i broke down in tears and had had enough so we basically told her we didnt want to be friends anymore and needed some time to ourselves. but i feel kinda bad now bc A has no one in class (excet 1 oth person) to turn to... but im proud that we finally stood up to her and drew healthy boundaries. but we're all still in the same class and stuff so idk how stuff will go

 

[litc]

if some of you gys rmbr me posting abt confronting my toxic friend (overview: me, A, 3 oth friends in friend grp. me + 3 oth friends feel that A is being toxic, confronted her, she basically didnt do anything abt it) so today something happened that was basically the straw that broke the camels back. so during physical ed, we were practicing how to serve in volleyball and there were 3 guys, A and another girl on my team. so the thing is im terrified of items flying towards me s my immediate reaction is to always jump out of the way. even if the item isnt even near me ill flinch. ok so the ball was hurtling towards my face so i instinctively dodged then i apologised and ran to get the ball. aft like the 3rd time A came up to me and said, "can you just catch the ball, the guys are getting annoyed" so firstly the guys werent actually annoyed they were just being dramatic (bc if they were actually annoyed they would say smtg but they just threw up their hands and laughed a bit) BUT THE PT IS I WAS SO FREAKING UPSET like you srsly care more abt what the guys think then how i was feeling???? and you expect us to always care abt how you are feeling??? so anyway afterwards while i was telling my oth friends abt it i broke down in tears and had had enough so we basically told her we didnt want to be friends anymore and needed some time to ourselves. but i feel kinda bad now bc A has no one in class (excet 1 oth person) to turn to... but im proud that we finally stood up to her and drew healthy boundaries. but we're all still in the same class and stuff so idk how stuff will go

Maybe she can use the time to “reflect” like kpop idols after a perceived scandal

 

[anemoia]

Maybe she can use the time to “reflect” like kpop idols after a perceived scandal

idk we gave her time to reflect aft the confrontation but not nly saw no change, it seemed to get worse, and i feel like itll be the same this time....

 

[litc]

idk we gave her time to reflect aft the confrontation but not nly saw no change, it seemed to get worse, and i feel like itll be the same this time....

Oh no I mean in class, with you guys not interacting with her for a good while, not just a few hours

 

[izcream]

i hope youre okay, friendship drama can be quite draining at times

 

[anemoia]

i hope youre okay, friendship drama can be quite draining at times

yeah my friends and i are just hanging in there bc its our last year

 

[dark_tranquility]

I cut someone in my life.
I was guilt tripped into re adding him
but then I have had enough of babysitting him even though he is his twenties
I feel so much better because of it.

friendship drama is so draining

 

[ChiaraStar169]

that's great! Toxicity is for the birds!

 

[ChiaraStar169]

I cut someone in my life.
I was guilt tripped into re adding him
but then I have had enough of babysitting him even though he is his twenties
I feel so much better because of it.

friendship drama is so draining

sounds smilar to an experience of mine. I had a friend I had to cut off back in 2018 because she was becoming more toxic than arsenic - talking about me behind my back and all sorts of other toxic behaviors. When I called to break it off, she guilt tripped me into taking her back by giving me this sob story about how she just lost her job and had nobody to turn to. *scoffs* yeah, right! So after that, I blocked her number. Thankfully, I never heard from her again.

eta: we even had a song for us, and to this day, I can't hear it without thinking of her and her toxic personality.

 

[dark_tranquility]

sounds smilar to an experience of mine. I had a friend I had to cut off back in 2018. I had to end things because she was becoming more toxic than arsenic - talking about me behind my back and all sorts of other toxic behaviors. When I called to break it off, she guilt tripped me into taking her back by giving me this sob story about how she just lost her job and had nobody to turn to. *scoffs* yeah, right! So after that, I blocked her number. Thankfully, I never heard from her again.

I hope as well you do not see her again
Toxicity is the worst
I had to drop so many friends because of its potency