Sensitive tw: su1c!de mentions - about my friend :/ (1 Viewer)

[IGURO]

Spoiler: tw: suicide

so i was talking with my friend today and we haven't spoken in some time and i asked her how she was and she said "depressed" and i was asking her about what. she said she feels like a disappointment to her friends and family and she's having a gender identity crisis (like me) and she hates her body now bcuz she has scars(!!!!) and i asked her if they were self-inflicted and she said yes. she's been attempting to kill herself she admitted, saying about how everyone just ignores her and her family situation is not the best. We're not the best of friends but we play Genshin Impact together and she plays Cookie Run: Kingdom and she's cute and funny but she's really sad and i suck at advice so i don't know what to say to her. I'm just really sad that she's been trying to end her own life and i made her promise she wouldn't harm herself anymore and she said she wouldn't die but i don't want her to try anything else bcuz she said sometimes she hurts herself with her nails or a razor and i got really scared bcuz i did that too at one point i tried to slash myself with my art knife so ik what place she's at. I'm just worried for her. I needed somewhere to put all this. If your gonna reply, do it in a spoiler cuz i dont want anyone to get triggered or squeamish.

 

[dark_tranquility]

Spoiler: tw: suicide

so i was talking with my friend today and we haven't spoken in some time and i asked her how she was and she said "depressed" and i was asking her about what. she said she feels like a disappointment to her friends and family and she's having a gender identity crisis (like me) and she hates her body now bcuz she has scars(!!!!) and i asked her if they were self-inflicted and she said yes. she's been attempting to kill herself she admitted, saying about how everyone just ignores her and her family situation is not the best. We're not the best of friends but we play Genshin Impact together and she plays Cookie Run: Kingdom and she's cute and funny but she's really sad and i suck at advice so i don't know what to say to her. I'm just really sad that she's been trying to end her own life and i made her promise she wouldn't harm herself anymore and she said she wouldn't die but i don't want her to try anything else bcuz she said sometimes she hurts herself with her nails or a razor and i got really scared bcuz i did that too at one point i tried to slash myself with my art knife so ik what place she's at. I'm just worried for her. I needed somewhere to put all this. If your gonna reply, do it in a spoiler cuz i dont want anyone to get triggered or squeamish.

I've tried to commit suicide like 8 times
my mind just goes there

like your friend

 

[IGURO]

I've tried to commit suicide like 8 times
my mind just goes there

like your friend

PLEASE NO
DON'T EVER AGAIN

 

[dark_tranquility]

PLEASE NO
DON'T EVER AGAIN

I haven't tried for a while
luckily for me I get saved by strangers

 

[IGURO]

I haven't tried for a while
luckily for me I get saved by strangers

don't do that ever again. it is not cool to end your beautiful life early

 

[dark_tranquility]

don't do that ever again. it is not cool to end your beautiful life early

I won't

I like you and everyone on this forum : )

 

[IGURO]

I won't

I like you and everyone on this forum : )

good
i like you too : ]

 

[dark_tranquility]

good
i like you too : ]

 

[Harmony_Starz]

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I dont consider it a big deal as this was years ago and nothing much came from it but I had tried to do that once, but I was too chicken to handle the pain so it didnt happen thankfully I am really sorry for your friend, I have a friend like that too and I am trash at comforting so I am generally not much help

 

[IGURO]

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I dont consider it a big deal as this was years ago and nothing much came from it but I had tried to do that once, but I was too chicken to handle the pain so it didnt happen thankfully I am really sorry for your friend, I have a friend like that too and I am trash at comforting so I am generally not much help

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it's alright. i think we've all tried. except i let mine go all the way through. luckily it's a little blade (i still have it) and didn't do anything crazy but still! I AM NOT NORMALIZING SUICIDE ATTEMPTS!!

 

[Itto]

I’ve thought about it a few times, but I’ve never acted on my thoughts. I’ve never told anyone I know irl.. I feel like they’d just say I’m looking for attention, which I hate.

 

[IGURO]

I’ve thought about it a few times, but I’ve never acted on my thoughts. I’ve never told anyone I know irl.. I feel like they’d just say I’m looking for attention, which I hate.

mhmm one time i said to my siblings "I'll overdose on my meds" or smth and they were like "stop manipulating us!"
like BITCH I WILL

 

[Itto]

Yeah.. crying is really the only thing I can do because I’m too scared to try anything

 

[IGURO]

Yeah.. crying is really the only thing I can do because I’m too scared to try anything

crying's good tho. i love crying
makes me feel better

 

[Pirioca]

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Be there for her, send her positive vibes, encourage her. Almost all sucidal people feel alone, unwanted, misunderstood. And their selective perception seems to confirm the reason for their feelings.

The scars aren't the reason for her depression. Do you know Maxwell Maltz?

Psycho-Cybernetics: How to Get a Self-Image Upgrade

How do you change the way you see yourself? In the 1960s, a cosmetic surgeon named Dr. Maxwell Maltz gave his answer — Psycho-Cybernetics.

blog.mindvalley.com

Dr. Maxwell Maltz may not have had a typical personal development background, but in his work as a cosmetic surgeon, he began to notice that often, despite successful ‘correction’ of a perceived imperfection, a patients’ false belief would prevent them from healing the emotional scars that existed pre-surgery.

In short, they wouldn’t end up any happier after their operation. Their outward appearance changed, but the true source — their negative self-image, beliefs, feelings, and attitudes would remain the same.

She could be the most gorgeous human being and she would feel ugly. Self-evaluation can be our worst enemy: anorexic people even think they're fat while standing on a scale.

The best way to fight depression is finding the purpose in life. Everyone has a special talent, so is there something your friend can do especially good? Helping other people can help fighting depression too. Voluntary work is a good option - you don't want to die when you know that someone still needs you. When the shit hits the fan and she wants to kill herself now, tell her that 'now' is not the right time to make that kind of a decision. First and foremost you need to gain time. That's one reason why there are Suicide Hotlines.

And - of course - she should search for professional support. Depression doesn't heal like the flu.

 

[ChiaraStar169]

Spoiler: tw: su1c1de mention

one time, my bestie almost did an overdose on muscle relaxants. I was so scared for her at the time, but luckily (a) she never did follow through with it (and flushed them down the toilet so she couldn't) and (b) she's never even thought about committing again. I didn't click the spoiler, so idk if your friend is still with us, but if so, I pray to our Lord and Savior that they get the help they need. If not, I'll send prayers of healing for you and your friend's family. But in either case, you can always dm me to talk about it.

 

[ani07]

considering what you wrote about her family, professional help is not an option.

1st you or she should call the suicide/self harm hotline.
they can help with finding solutions.
dont be scared to call, the ppl working there are all friendly.

I had to call the sexual harrassment hotline once too, because sth happend with my grandma.
it really helped me to calm down and clear my mind.

 

[IGURO]

Spoiler

Be there for her, send her positive vibes, encourage her. Almost all sucidal people feel alone, unwanted, misunderstood. And their selective perception seems to confirm the reason for their feelings.

The scars aren't the reason for her depression. Do you know Maxwell Maltz?

Psycho-Cybernetics: How to Get a Self-Image Upgrade

How do you change the way you see yourself? In the 1960s, a cosmetic surgeon named Dr. Maxwell Maltz gave his answer — Psycho-Cybernetics.

blog.mindvalley.com

She could be the most gorgeous human being and she would feel ugly. Self-evaluation can be our worst enemy: anorexic people even think they're fat while standing on a scale.

The best way to fight depression is finding the purpose in life. Everyone has a special talent, so is there something your friend can do especially good? Helping other people can help fighting depression too. Voluntary work is a good option - you don't want to die when you know that someone still needs you. When the shit hits the fan and she wants to kill herself now, tell her that 'now' is not the right time to make that kind of a decision. First and foremost you need to gain time. That's one reason why there are Suicide Hotlines.

And - of course - she should search for professional support. Depression doesn't heal like the flu.

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thanks for all of this. i realized that whenever i get depressed or suicidal i think about the future and how that will impact me and looking ahead. As a girl who's also questioning her gender and sexuality, i'm able to help her in that sense but i honestly didn't know what to say when she brought up depression/suicide, etc. Personally, when I experience that for myself I just keep it all inside and THAT IS NOT A GOOD PRACTISE so i would never tell her that. ever. I really didn't know how to help but this shines some light on it thank you

 

[IGURO]

Spoiler: tw: su1c1de mention

one time, my bestie almost did an overdose on muscle relaxants. I was so scared for her at the time, but luckily (a) she never did follow through with it (and flushed them down the toilet so she couldn't) and (b) she's never even thought about committing again. I didn't click the spoiler, so idk if your friend is still with us, but if so, I pray to our Lord and Savior that they get the help they need. If not, I'll send prayers of healing for you and your friend's family. But in either case, you can always dm me to talk about it.

Spoiler: su1c!ce mentions

in short, she's alright but she's attempted on her life b4 with a kn!fe and it resulted in her having a lot of scars. she's insecure and she's questionig her gender and sexuality and i was rlly no help. just thought i'd share it

 

[IGURO]

considering what you wrote about her family, professional help is not an option.

1st you or she should call the suicide/self harm hotline.
they can help with finding solutions.
dont be scared to call, the ppl working there are all friendly.

I had to call the sexual harrassment hotline once too, because sth happend with my grandma.
it really helped me to calm down and clear my mind.

she told me not to worry about it but i am
she said she'll handle it. i already suggested the hotline to her