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[yeji]

Oii everybody
I have been thinking alot and I really don’t know what to do

I have been a Shawol and iconic for so long but it has been so difficult to actually listen to their songs after everything.

I still love the boys but can I really call them both my ults if I don’t listen to them while I have been listening up and down to my female ult groups?

Don‘t get me wrong I will always support, appreciate and love them but I just don’t know if I can honestly continue with having them as my ults the way I used to.​

 

[Skinnny]

Nothing wrong with switching ults

 

[Administrator2]

It's time for a generation change and there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[Abeamus]

Well you could keep them as your ults if you'd be swapping entirely to girl groups since most people have a boy group and girl group ult if they stan both.

 

[jasque]

Thats ok, kpop is just like that

 

[VillageIdiot]

I'd give iKon some time, see if the next comeback without Hangbin feels like. Even if a iKon without him seems impossible to imagine now, actually having the comeback might change your mind. It'll be different, very different, like stanning a whole new group but it's up to you to decide whether you can accept it or not. Same with Shinee. There's no denying that things are different now and nothing wrong with not being able to cope with it

In general, it's normal to go through phases of "cheating" on your faves. Following or listening to other groups more intensely. You really just have to ask yourself if they're still #1 in your heart regardless. If the answer is yes, then just give it time and continue to explore other groups. If the answer is no, then there's nothing wrong with retiring your faves. It happens

 

[ripiasuju]

I don't think people understand what you're saying. I know its painful but you gotta be strong.listen to them and stan with conviction you can do it Jen!!

 

[yeji]

Well you could keep them as your ults if you'd be swapping entirely to girl groups since most people have a boy group and girl group ult if they stan both.

I have been more into gg‘s this generation for awhile. I guess it makes sense to swap to only gg ults

 

[yeji]

I'd give iKon some time, see if the next comeback without Hangbin feels like. Even if a iKon without him seems impossible to imagine now, actually having the comeback might change your mind. It'll be different, very different, like stanning a whole new group but it's up to you to decide whether you can accept it or not. Same with Shinee. There's no denying that things are different now and nothing wrong with not being able to cope with it

In general, it's normal to go through phases of "cheating" on your faves. Following or listening to other groups more intensely. You really just have to ask yourself if they're still #1 in your heart regardless. If the answer is yes, then just give it time and continue to explore other groups. If the answer is no, then there's nothing wrong with retiring your faves. It happens

thing is with yg you never know. iKON always was mostly touring since debut and are currently on tour. Also some of the fandom has been speculating that some boys are leaving yg or something.

It‘s not like I could drop them completely. I also am in a similar situation with sechskies. A OT4 comeback may be odd since the main vocal is out but until a comeback there is nothing to do besides waiting

 

[yeji]

I don't think people understand what you're saying. I know its painful but you gotta be strong.listen to them and stan with conviction you can do it Jen!!

you really are the best

 

[Abeamus]

I have been more into gg‘s this generation for awhile. I guess it makes sense to swap to only gg ults

Well if you just aren't into the music then you can't help that but don't feel pressured to keep SHINee or iKon as your ults because of what happened as I myself have been less into SHINees 2018+ stuff than their stuff before