Sensitive Depression and anxiety is not a choice (1 Viewer)

[Wingfrost]

I heard this earlier today and just wanted to-
(This wasn’t said by someone I know personally, just a random encounter).
It is in fact not a choice my good sir… his reasoning behind how it is a choice is that you can apparently “choose” to come out of it.

Well how do you do that then? because I’d like to choose to come out of both please.
You can’t just choose to snap out of it, you can work to improve your mental health and find ways to go about life easier but you don’t just wake up and decide “I’m not going to be depressed or anxious anymore”.
It’s these kind of comments that always make me think “wow this person must think I love having a mental illness that negatively impacts my life on the daily”.
I don’t.

Sorry for the rant, but this comment annoyed me and I needed to vent.
Anyways, have this cute gif to hopefully make you smile:

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[athenaaa]

I have unfortunately heard this too many times, even from a specific family member and it invalidates me completely. I hate how some people assume it can be fixed by the snap of a finger. I give you full permission to whack them cause if not I will

 

[Selfmate]

I guess for some people who haven't experienced it may think that way
it may be ignorance or just them being a jerk

 

[MK3AM]

god that makes me pissed as someone who has panic attack I wish I didn't have them I hate it so much if only I could turn it off
this also reminds me of a time my friend said she wanted ADHD so I understand how you feel

 

[dark_tranquility]

People are idiots when it comes to the mental health of loves ones.

 

[Wingfrost]

I have unfortunately heard this too many times, even from a specific family member and it invalidates me completely. I hate how some people assume it can be fixed by the snap of a finger. I give you full permission to whack them cause if not I will

I try to not whack others but you can have at it

I guess for some people who haven't experienced it may think that way
it may be ignorance or just them being a jerk

He said he himself had depression so… idk

god that makes me pissed as someone who has panic attack I wish I didn't have them I hate it so much if only I could turn it off
this also reminds me of a time my friend said she wanted ADHD so I understand how you feel

Oof, my brother dealt with ADHD and he absolutely despised it. I can’t imagine wanting any kind of mental illness. I’m sorry you deal with panic attacks, those are no fun at all.

 

[litc]

god that makes me pissed as someone who has panic attack I wish I didn't have them I hate it so much if only I could turn it off
this also reminds me of a time my friend said she wanted ADHD so I understand how you feel

Why the heck would anyone want ADHD everyone thinks you're annoying and you can't get stuff done regardless of how hard you try or smart you are and are constantly rushing or not panicking when you should be

 

[Selfmate]

He said he himself had depression so… idk

I don't know about his situation but it could be just that he's depressed and not clinical depression or that he's undiagnosed or 100 other reasons...

 

[litc]

I heard this earlier today and just wanted to-
(This wasn’t said by someone I know personally, just a random encounter).
It is in fact not a choice my good sir… his reasoning behind how it is a choice is that you can apparently “choose” to come out of it.

Well how do you do that then? because I’d like to choose to come out of both please.
You can’t just choose to snap out of it, you can work to improve your mental health and find ways to go about life easier but you don’t just wake up and decide “I’m not going to be depressed or anxious anymore”.
It’s these kind of comments that always make me think “wow this person must think I love having a mental illness that negatively impacts my life on the daily”.
I don’t.

Sorry for the rant, but this comment annoyed me and I needed to vent.
Anyways, have this cute gif to hopefully make you smile:

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Spoiler

I have both, yes been officially diagnosed for years, as well as ADHD

And no I don’t think I was misdiagnosed I am sure I wasn’t

i don’t think it’s a choice but

For depression I used to be really depressed, every time I woke up I would feel disappointed I was still alike I would involuntarily end up crying at school and hope no one noticed, I could cry at will for acting and all, bc all I had to do was think abt how no one would miss me when I was gone and immediately cry, etc. …
I won’t go on.

As far as it being a choice, when I was 11 I vowed to never be happy bc TW? People are being murdered every second so how can I be happy knowing that, isn’t it selfish? though everyone thought I was super dumb for that but still found it normal to get sad from reading one such news story and selfish/weird/inhuman to not get affected from reading smth like that. I was depressed before that though, but choosing to forfeit happiness I think can be a choice. Regardless of just how I feel about it, my feelings themselves won’t change anything, so later I switched to trying to spreading happiness to others instead

anyway, back to depression. after the year I was I think the most depressed? I suddenly stopped and was happy instead. But it was stupid happiness, happiness without a reason, no matter what, nothing felt real, like regardless of it I’d be happy, I couldn’t care abt anything and bc nothing felt real, I felt like I wasn’t in control of myself, and it honestly felt like just a defense mechanism and I can say I prefer being very depressed to that, having been there, but yeah without taking medicine I’m not outwardly extremely depressed anymore

As for anxiety… this was EXTREME. Mostly social anxiety but also for when I got behind on assignments cuz of adhd. I had panic attacks twice a day (morning and night) two to four days a week, every week for nearly a year. Everyone was worried, frantic, lots of things happened. Me? When I wasn’t having a panic attack I was just like meh, it’s not a big deal whatever. Stop worrying. Downplaying everything, not liking pity, that’s me. Anyways so that was severe. And I got over THAT without any medicine or anything. Through pure stubbornness and willpower. Not like social anxiety is completely gone ig but I don’t have severe panic attacks like that even once in five months, the level of severity of those ones hasn’t happened for years now.

So with a mental thing or at least anxiety while you can’t choose it you can overcome mentally with hard work, stubbornness, willpower and effort

adhd I do need to take medicine for bc I have tried not taking medicine for it and I do so much more horribly without it and I still constantly struggle but while irl peeps I know take it, online the ppl with adhd I’ve met mostly don’t take it cuz the side effects are worse than benefit for them so I feel so guilty needing it

 

[litc]

Spoiler

I have both, yes been officially diagnosed for years, as well as ADHD

And no I don’t think I was misdiagnosed I am sure I wasn’t

i don’t think it’s a choice but

For depression I used to be really depressed, every time I woke up I would feel disappointed I was still alike I would involuntarily end up crying at school and hope no one noticed, I could cry at will for, bc all I had to do was think abt how no one would miss me when I was gone, etc. …
I won’t go on.

As far as it being a choice, when I was 11 I vowed to never be happy bc TW?People are being murdered every second so how can I be happy knowing that, isn’t it selfish though everyone thought I was super dumb for that but still found it normal to get sad from reading one such news story and selfish/weird/inhuman to not get affected from reading smth like that. I was depressed before that though, but choosing to forfeit happiness I think can be a choice. Regardless of just how I feel about it, my feelings themselves won’t change anything, so later I switched to trying to spreading happiness to others instead

anyway, back to depression. after the year I was I think the most depressed? I suddenly stopped and was happy instead. But it was stupid happiness, happiness without a reason, no matter what, nothing felt real, like regardless of it I’d be happy, I couldn’t care abt anything and bc nothing felt real, I felt like I wasn’t in control of myself, and it honestly felt like just a defense mechanism and I can say I prefer being very depressed to that, having been there, but yeah without taking medicine I’m not outwardly extremely depressed anymore

As for anxiety… this was EXTREME. Mostly social anxiety but also for when I got behind on assignments cuz of adhd. I had panic attacks twice a day (morning and night) two to four days a week, every week for nearly a year. Everyone was worried, frantic, lots of things happened. Me? When I wasn’t having a panic attack I was just like meh, it’s not a big deal whatever. Stop worrying. Downplaying everything, not liking pity, that’s me. Anyways so that was severe. And I got over THAT without any medicine or anything. Through pure stubbornness and willpower. Not like social anxiety is completely gone ig but I don’t have severe panic attacks like that even once in five months, the level of severity of those ones hasn’t happened for years now.

So with a mental thing or at least anxiety while you can’t choose it you can overcome mentally with hard work, stubbornness, willpower and effort

adhd I do need to take medicine for bc I have tried not taking medicine for it and I do so much more horribly without it and I still constantly struggle but while irl peeps I know take it, online the ppl with adhd I’ve met mostly don’t take it cuz the side effects are worse than benefit for them so I feel so guilty needing it

Sorry I talk too much even online omg

 

[Magician]

yeah, had a teacher who told a friend that she 'needs to be more happy and smile more' then she won’t be depressed anymore

 

[ichigohon]

That's them projecting their own experiences and/or opinions onto you, so don't think too much of it.

However, some people that struggle with depression just make a choice to be happy and their depression stops (this was the case for me) while others aren't so lucky and cannot make the "choice" to be happy because it was not a choice for them. Mental Health is complex topic and depends a lot on everyone's personal experience.

 

[Tickita]

Spoiler

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[GOJOSWIFE]

i would've smacked the shit out of them if they said that omg

 

[MK3AM]

I try to not whack others but you can have at it

He said he himself had depression so… idk

Oof, my brother dealt with ADHD and he absolutely despised it. I can’t imagine wanting any kind of mental illness. I’m sorry you deal with panic attacks, those are no fun at all.

no need to say sorry its not your fault! and I'm getting better at controlling it!

 

[MK3AM]

Why the heck would anyone want ADHD everyone thinks you're annoying and you can't get stuff done regardless of how hard you try or smart you are and are constantly rushing or not panicking when you should be

that's how I feel because of it I always feel like a burden for my teachers and friends I wish I could give my friend my ADHD she would see it isn't fun

 

[cocomelon]

god i wish that person goes through the worst phases of depression i really do. people so fucking inhumane and insane it is just sickening to me. how could you ever think like that, just because it hasn’t occurred to you, thank god for that. and live your life. no one ever wants go through that shitty feeling i don’t know what is wrong with people

 

[Skorge]

You should tell that person depression/anxiety is as much a "choice" as type 1 diabetes. lol ... Type 2 IS a choice as it's a result of bad lifestyle choices, but I'll digress...

Anxiety/depression is much more complicated than a lot of people realize. It's physiological and neurological. The physical simptoms are triggered by an autonomous nervous system response (neurological) that nobody has any control over.

However, we DO have a choice on whether or not to treat it... and DEFINITELY choose treatment. Don't let it linger.

 

[litc]

that's how I feel because of it I always feel like a burden for my teachers and friends I wish I could give my friend my ADHD she would see it isn't fun

I used to be bullied for being “dumb” bc of the impulsive things I did with adhd when I was little I don’t get it

 

[eyebags]

You’re right on.
I would never choose this, their is no turn it off button, we struggle with this shit so much and just pray that we can live with it.