If you had a kid, what would you do differently from your parent(s)? (1 Viewer)

[Tickita]

Not asking you if you want kids, just hypothetically. How would you raise them differently and why?

@notthatmarko @perhapz @lexus @Ashla_K @Ahsoka

 

[Ahsoka]

There's a lot I can say but not a lot without making my parents seem like terrible people

 

[Willow]

In a bilingual environment

 

[Abeamus]

There's a lot of things i'd do different tbh

 

[_Joohoney]

Hmm a few things, one of my rules will be "snacks only in the weekend"..

 

[Myco]

Support them in their hobby and enable them to follow their dreams

 

[RandAlThor]

Honestly not much.
Might play alot of gg for them.
Most of the differences would come form the mix of me and whom ever my spouse is.

Ok i would dis incentive spending all 4 years at a university almost to the point even with a full ride scholarship.
education is better at the community level. Auditorium instruction is close to useless. Go small first.

 

[SnowWhite]

Not much, my parents did well despite being traditional. Only thing I want my child to be more educated about will be equality of people. I won't call my parents racist or sexist or homophobe but they weren't perfect either, in that context.

 

[Jimimis]

Hopefully I’d marry a better dude

 

[yeji]

I would teach to accept people for what they are and to never hate on someone that's different from you.
I also would probably teach how important it is to trust yourself and love yourself.

 

[Willow]

Hopefully I’d marry a better dude

True for me too

 

[perhapz]

Hmm, I think I was too dependent on my parents when I was young, I think that made me get my sense of responsability later in my life?
Idk, I can't think of anything other than that, I think I have more things that I'll copy then thant do different tbh, I love my parents and the way they raised me

 

[Jimimis]

True for me too

Bad dad club?

 

[Willow]

Bad dad club?

Well he is nice but kinda annoying 😂

 

[Jimimis]

Well he is nice but kinda annoying 😂

Everyone is xD

 

[Mew]

I already do raise him differently to how I was raised by my mother, I would never want my childhood for him or lack there off...it would ruin him, like it has me to a degree. I just hope I can keep it up.. Parenting is harder as they get older, the way you want to raise doesn't always end up being the actual way you do... Especially when their personalities start to emerge.

 

[Willow]

Everyone is xD

Not me

 

[Ashla_K]

I'll try to make them independent. I was so overprotected by my parents, that by the moment I had to leave the house to study I couldn't do anything on my own. That was difficult for me to overcome and I still struggle with certain things that are common for other adults.

 

[kodoku]

I think we often forget that parents are people too and they can't be perfect either... but one thing I sort of resent my parents for is the lack of simply love.. the lack of time and attention, the lack of effort towards me..... I know I could never be a good parent for so many reasons, but I'd never leave my child emotionally alone... I'd never pierce that hole in their heart like my parents did and still do with me..

 

[daesuki]

I think my parents were okay, but I'd shower my kid with affection. My parents, especially my father, were never that emotionally invested in me. I was just,,,there. Another thing is I wouldn't force my kid to do an activity for more than 2.5-3 years if they don't like it, even if they're good. My parents made me play piano for 12 years, and while I was good at it, after 6+ years I stopped liking it. I started to resent the piano. I'm okay with piano now, but it still leaves a bittersweet feeling.

If my kid is good at an activity, but after 2.5 years or more, and they don't like it anymore, or they don't want lesions, they only want it as a hobby, I'd let them stop. I wouldn't let them stop after like, a month or even 6, but i'd let them stop if they really wanted to.