Are you afraid of being cheated on? (1 Viewer)

[RainbowDevil]

I'm sure some of us on the forum are either currently in a relationship or have been in one and even if not this is something that might scare you for a future one.

Being cheated on is one of my personal biggest nightmares, I feel like I'd be traumatized and shattered, the person I "love" with another person cause she is unsatisfied by me or mad at me or just lost feelings for me... I'd drop through the earth in an instant. It's like telling me "you failed" and then smearing it in my face "someone else could do it better".

I don't usually think of myself as bad? as in boyfriend material, I'm pretty confident in that aspect but damn if I'm not terrified that someone could be better than me at loving the person i love...

I see it all the time both on TV, books, real life, everywhere and it always baffled me. Like I see it happen and I just sit there thinking "what is wrong with this person".
Cause I couldn't cheat, I legit couldn't, I'd die of shame and guilt from what it might do to the other person. If I ever came into the situation where I liked someone more than my partner I wouldn't cheat, I'd think long and hard about it and either break up or not cheat. Option C doesn't exist for me...

What do y'all think?

(This is totally a random rant that as nothing to do with my real life stuff just so y'all know, I saw something related to cheating and wanted to talk about it)

 

[mysteric]

bold of you to assume I’ll ever get into a relationship

But kind of? I’d be more mad that said person couldn’t just break the relationship up before though since I find it a) cowardly and b) sad that they couldn’t confie to me before if that makes sense?

 

[JoanaIsHere]

It’d hurt but I’m not really worried about it lol. I’m pretty young though so my views might change 👍👍

 

[RainbowDevil]

bold of you to assume I’ll ever get into a relationship

But kind of? I’d be more mad that said person couldn’t just break the relationship up before though since I find it a) cowardly and b) sad that they couldn’t confie to me before if that makes sense?

True and I get what you mean, I somehow find that that would only come after I felt everything I expressed in the OP. But I definitely agree that those emotions would find their way into my mind somehow.

 

[RainbowDevil]

It’d hurt but I’m not really worried about it lol. I’m pretty young though so my views might change 👍👍

Tbh I've been terrified of it since I was like 14 (Damn that was 5 years ago, whoops)? And I hadn't even been in a relationship at that time. It must have been the effect of mass media on me. Tbh I hope your views don't change on it, it'll save you a lot of pain and suffering and paranoia and a lot of other stuff

 

[GloriousHavoc]

I was never afraid of being cheated on, and I also never even thought of cheating. But man, my ex's are wonderful people, I'm dead serious.
I can't be in a relationship if I don't have a strong friendship and trust in the person.

 

[RainbowDevil]

I was never afraid of being cheated on, and I also never even thought of cheating. But man, my ex's are wonderful people, I'm dead serious.
I can't be in a relationship if I don't have a strong friendship and trust in the person.

I was actually never scared during a relationship... which is weird, it was always in between that it happened. Probably as a side-effect of me not wanting to be cheated on I also do a similar thing of only being in a relationship with people I trust.
And yea I could say the same my ex's are wonderful, and I'm still great friends with em too

 

[GloriousHavoc]

I was actually never scared during a relationship... which is weird, it was always in between that it happened. Probably as a side-effect of me not wanting to be cheated on I also do a similar thing of only being in a relationship with people I trust.
And yea I could say the same my ex's are wonderful, and I'm still great friends with em too

Tbh, that is a great side-effect, it saves you from potential suffering and heartbreak, and makes you unlikely to enter an unhealthy relationship.

Ah same here! Still close friends Are you my ex, brate? jk jk :D

 

[RainbowDevil]

no

I fear often that i may be in adiquate for my partner. I want to be adequate for someone, so that i can do the steps in life that your supposed to. If i fail forever at that..well im fearful of that.

but of the cheating that may occur from it? not at all. I definetly think you should not cheat. i feel like there's better ways to go about it, but im not going to be emotional scarred it clearly wasn't working for atleast one party, so the relationship was gonna end anyway.

I guess the only fear i could have when it comes to cheating is if other people found out before me and pitied me or judged me because of the cheating.

like if i looked like a fool who couldn't tell i was being cheated on. that would be the ego blow for me. As long as the cheating was private, and i found out about it, i'd just end it, and of course be a little sad at the relationhips ending.. but oh well.

An interesting look at it I definitely also feer being inadequate but like at a later stage, in the sense of wasting 5 years of my life on it and then suddenly starting to fail at it.
And yea the everyone knowing but me would also be... idiotic, I'd definitely feel like a dumbass, I also kinda think if a person is that obvious to be cheating... I wouldn't even be with her in the first place.

 

[RainbowDevil]

Tbh, that is a great side-effect, it saves you from potential suffering and heartbreak, and makes you unlikely to enter an unhealthy relationship.

Ah same here! Still close friends Are you my ex, brate? jk jk :D

Nah, the only kpop ex I had stanned MX and BP i was happy and sad at the same time 😂
Ayy another neighbor, why do i feel like i knew you were a neighbor but forgot 😂

 

[GloriousHavoc]

Nah, the only kpop ex I had stanned MX and BP i was happy and sad at the same time 😂
Ayy another neighbor, why do i feel like i knew you were a neighbor but forgot 😂

LMAO, since my ex is a vg designer, I seriously got like this for a second:

Spoiler

That's probably cause I wrote something ћирилицом somewhere in the forum

 

[SaviorITZY]

No because I can just cheat right back and it's even steven

 

[emptycup]

No.
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[Jimimis]

Jimin would never do such a thing

 

[kodoku]

I've been cheated on, but I'm not afraid of it. It was his problem doing such a thing, it didn't have much to do with me

 

[RainbowDevil]

I've been cheated on, but I'm not afraid of it. It was his problem doing such a thing, it didn't have much to do with me

That's also fair, I'm not sure I could ever see in the same manner tho

 

[kodoku]

That's also fair, I'm not sure I could ever see in the same manner tho

How so? I'm curious :)

 

[RainbowDevil]

How so? I'm curious :)

I'd just always see it as something I caused and unless I completely didn't care about the person that cheated on me well it would definitely shake me to the core.
Even the situation where a person might be drunk and cheats cause of that and is sorry... like it pains me to think someone I love was with someone else

 

[SeulPika]

If I had doubts about my wife's faithfulness then I wouldn't of took the step of asking her to marry me.

Everyone who knows us irl notices straight away just how much in love me and my wife are with one another. Everyone calls us the perfect couple lol

 

[kodoku]

I'd just always see it as something I caused and unless I completely didn't care about the person that cheated on me well it would definitely shake me to the core.
Even the situation where a person might be drunk and cheats cause of that and is sorry... like it pains me to think someone I love was with someone else

I understand. It did hurt but I treated him well, anything more was beyond what I could do, so I kinda never took the road of blaming myself