Turn offs in an argument? (1 Viewer)

[Mayday]

yea i proly wouldn't make a good caveman

luckily most things arent green in space so you can try plan b

 

[SHlNEE]

What's your indicator that someone isn't worth arguing with?
Did I make this just to rant about my sister? Absolutely.

For me, it's when someone says "okay" to shut you up. It's immature and shows that they are too immature to handle anyone disagreeing with them or it shows that they are unable to properly communicate that they are not in the mindset to continue the argument. My sister used to do this a lot until I started laughing every time she did it bc it IS funny tbh. It's also extremely rude lol. I would laugh because it was funny how immature someone can be, it kind of reminds me of a child. I always love poking those people with a stick during arguments because those are the people that tend to get aggressive really quickly (ahem my sister). I actually used to do this when I was like 10 and then I realized that it isn't effective and all it does is make people dislike you. Surprise Mayah, being rude in an argument isn't the way to go about things :O. This was when we were younger but I still feel this way about people irl.


Another big one for me is when someone turns a debate/disagreement into an argument. The moment they start hurling insults or start saying that "you don't know what you're talking about" is when I back off. If you're being aggressive out of nowhere you are too immature to have a disagreement and you aren't worth my time. Honestly using this to avoid continuing conflicts with people helped my life a lot because I no longer argue with people that aren't capable of doing so without attacking me. I again usually just giggle to myself because it's kinda funny how worked up people get. Now this one isn't based off of my sister but a lot of my irls. They start attacking your character when you disagree with them on politics or something. "Oh, you don't support xxx? So basically you're a tyrant that wants millions of people to die?" like bro no???

Trust me guys, the moment you start ignoring conflicts with people like that, your life gets x10 better.
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This reminds me of today

Cycling on a road, ahead i see a car with an older female and kids inside the car on the side of the road.
Next to the car are standing some kids talking to her whilst bocking the way for anyone else to pass on a bike or a car

They see me coming
No one moving so i can pass
Ringing my bell just so they then finally move whilst i almost run them over as they responded way too slow cause they were too focused on the car chat, not giving a fuck they were blocking the road

I Told them whilst passing : you are in the middle of the road?!!!!
And they fkin laughed like...... Sure
Kids laugh a lot at a bunch of different things BUT this i found ridiculous, immature and rude of them

To not give a fak they blocking the road and then laugh like they did nothing wrong when someone tells them

Traffic is a serious subject and its like no one cared
Not even the older female in the car
If i were her i would of told them to get on the sidewalk if they wanted to speak with me
Ugh

 

[daesuki]

luckily most things arent green in space so you can try plan b

good at least my astronaut princess ballerina dream won't go wasted

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

I'm wondering the the last one happens often to you due to your views on some political issues?

And kinda weird, but I looked up the science of screaming when we're angry and apparently it's to show dominance.

Anyone who sees an argument as an alpha vs beta thing is straight garbage.

I thankfully haven't lost any friends due to political differences but I also try to respect people's boundaries and if they express a view that opposes mine I won't suddenly throw out at them well I don't agree with that-LETS TALK ABOUT IT.

Unless I know for a fact that the person won't get offended or upset OR if I've had a history of talking with them and the conversations being very level-headed and nice. Without any hostility. I know I talked to someone on here in DM's once about subject matter that was a bit heated but I think we both were somewhat respectful and I don't have any ill will towards them at all.

I know I also am comfortable talking about politics with users like @Vikki and @Panda because I know even if we disagree they know who I am as a person and the conversations never get out of hand.

But I do know other people who have had the displeasure of losing friends over political differences.

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

I wanna second this, as a kid when i got into an argument with my dad he'd scream at us so that's why i have crippling fear of confrontation

Same though...definitely have a hard time with confrontation but I'm learning to get better with it.

 

[Mayday]

This reminds me of today

Cycling on a road, ahead i see a car with an older female and kids inside the car on the side of the road.
Next to the car are standing some kids talking to her whilst bocking the way for anyone else to pass on a bike or a car

They see me coming
No one moving so i can pass
Ringing my bell just so they then finally move whilst i almost run them over as they responded way too slow cause they were too focused on the car chat, not giving a fuck they were blocking the road

I Told them whilst passing : you are in the middle of the road?!!!!
And they fkin laughed like...... Sure
Kids laugh a lot at a bunch of different things BUT this i found ridiculous, immature and rude of them

To not give a fak they blocking the road and then laugh like they did nothing wrong when someone tells them

Traffic is a serious subject and its like no one cared
Not even the older female in the car
If i were her i would of told them to get on the sidewalk if they wanted to speak with me
Ugh

kids are cruel in general but for the adult in the situation (the lady in the car) not to discipline them is really...something. people who are in the middle of the road really need to learn how rude it is.

 

[Mayday]

I thankfully haven't lost any friends due to political differences but I also try to respect people's boundaries and if they express a view that opposes mine I won't suddenly throw out at them well I don't agree with that-LETS TALK ABOUT IT.

Unless I know for a fact that the person won't get offended or upset OR if I've had a history of talking with them and the conversations being very level-headed and nice. Without any hostility. I know I talked to someone on here in DM's once about subject matter that was a bit heated but I think we both were somewhat respectful and I don't have any ill will towards them at all.

I know I also am comfortable talking about politics with users like @Vikki and @Panda because I know even if we disagree they know who I am as a person and the conversations never get out of hand.

But I do know other people who have had the displeasure of losing friends over political differences.

Like I've said to you earlier, I really genuinely don't care about anyone's political beliefs as long as they aren't attacking anyone or as long as they don't stem from misogyny, racism, homophobia, etc. I don't tend to have a lot of friends that are not aligned to my political beliefs but that's simply because most of the people around me are of the same values. I'm definitely willing to discuss political differences as LONG as the other person isn't aggressive.

 

[SHlNEE]

kids are cruel in general but for the adult in the situation (the lady in the car) not to discipline them is really...something. people who are in the middle of the road really need to learn how rude it is.

Oh well you said it
Kids are

And i know right, like bitch wtf you doin

The fkd up thing is though
I bet if an accident would of happened
They would of blamed it all on me
Always like that

 

[Mayday]

Oh well you said it
Kids are

And i know right, like bitch wtf you doin

The fkd up thing is though
I bet if an accident would of happened
They would of blamed it all on me
Always like that

People like that are so selfish. It's the same people that will cut off you when you're changing lanes and then honk at you like bro what

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

Like I've said to you earlier, I really genuinely don't care about anyone's political beliefs as long as they aren't attacking anyone or as long as they don't stem from misogyny, racism, homophobia, etc. I don't tend to have a lot of friends that are not aligned to my political beliefs but that's simply because most of the people around me are of the same values. I'm definitely willing to discuss political differences as LONG as the other person isn't aggressive.

I have a mix of friends who are on different ends of the political spectrum but I do think the main reason we can get along is that we still have the same beliefs at our core.

 

[Mayday]

I have a mix of friends who are on different ends of the political spectrum but I do think the main reason we can get along is that we still have the same beliefs at our core.

Which is what politics was SUPPOSED to be. To make America a better place. Now it's just who's right and who's wrong.

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

Which is what politics was SUPPOSED to be. To make America a better place. Now it's just who's right and who's wrong.

America done fucked up per usual.

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

Mine is when one of two things occur: (1) Talking about politics and the other person starts screaming because you don't agree; (2) The other person walks out of the room. Its very passive-aggressive and really annoys me.

I have the tendency to walk out if I feel I'm getting too frustrated and irrational. So it's not to be childish it's to calm down and think logically and not overreact if the argument is getting heated that is....

 

[Yili]

Being interrupted and being talked over
I hate arguments in general though

 

[Mayday]

I have the tendency to walk out if I feel I'm getting too frustrated and irrational. So it's not to be childish it's to calm down and think logically and not overreact if the argument is getting heated that is....

Not to say it's easy to do by any means, but it might be better to say why you're walking out so it doesn't seem like you're just storming off.

 

[Mayday]

Being interrupted and being talked over
I hate arguments in general though

I tend to interrupt people a lot on accident (not only in arguments, just in general) and it makes me feel so bad

esp bc its one of my pet peeves.

 

[Yili]

I tend to interrupt people a lot on accident (not only in arguments, just in general) and it makes me feel so bad

esp bc its one of my pet peeves.

Yeah I do it on accident too dw but in an argument it's the worst if they just keep talking and you're like

 

[Mayday]

Yeah I do it on accident too dw but in an argument it's the worst if they just keep talking and you're like

I think it's obvious when they're doing it to assert dominance vs when they do it bc theyre just really hyperactive

 

[Yili]

I think it's obvious when they're doing it to assert dominance vs when they do it bc theyre just really hyperactive

true it depends on who i'm arguing with bc usually it has to be someone i kind of know otherwise i just let it go LOL

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

Not to say it's easy to do by any means, but it might be better to say why you're walking out so it doesn't seem like you're just storming off.

Oh I know I'm trying to work on that-my boyfriend and I have had talks about it in depth because it stresses him out when I do it. When that isn't my intent.